Parental Alienation Syndrome, aka “Divorce Poison” is one of the cruelest forms of abuse to a child with little to zero public support services. It was the what I call, ‘the cruelest failure’ of my marriage. I decided to blog about this as there are other parents that have been afflicted; I recognize I am not alone. I hope to provide a source of comfort, knowledge, and platform for others to share and I hope to connect with other parents that have been impacted.
I have been divorced for a few years now. After having a both a parenting coordinator and relationship re-building counselor, I thought I was out of the woods and could put this behind me. Sadly, I learned this wasn’t the case when my son told me how much I have failed him and hated me (more on this later). I learned the poisoning by my ex was ongoing, (although Beit, not direct) and I had a too continually educate myself and work towards regaining my sons love.
Why Anonymous? Well, for quite a few reasons that include; protection & confidentiality…I don’t need my ex to try to make a court case. Think of it as maintaining the crazy factor of my ex. I could be your next door neighbor; I could be thousands of miles away. It doesn’t matter. What does matter is that this serves as a source of community and healing. Another important piece is I hope to better educate others; if I can help one other person it will have been worth it. Another part is to share. There is incredible pain and hurt, to know another parent could do such horrible abuse and warp a child’s development. Journaling has always been a form a therapy for me, to get something out, the feelings, to record them and acknowledge them, and then to deal with them.
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Anonymous Dad 